1. What is communication?
Verbal or nonverbal, communication is everyone’s need. It is an exchange of information, knowledge, emotions, attitudes...everything that constitutes life. Communication is the heart of all relationships. Not just that, communication is a relationship. Still, this does not mean that every communication is in itself successful. Sometimes, even though we have talked, we experience that we have not been heard or understood. Most of us think that we can communicate until life shows us otherwise.
2. When is communication successful?
When both sides are happy and fulfilled on the level of needs, we can say that we have communicated successfully. Recognizing and respecting our own feelings and needs, and the needs and feelings of others, as well as showing that we care about the positive outcome for all involved regardless of the effort and time needed are all important elements of successful communication.
3. What is the prerequisite to want to improve our ability to communicate?
Every time we want to change something, we need a good enough reason to actually change it. If we know “why”, we will find the “how”. In order to change, some just need to see other people’s experience, while someone else will not change even after feeling the burn on their own skin. For some, unease in a relationship is enough to want more quality in an exchange, while for others not even a frustrating, burdensome or even violent relationship repeated daily isn’t reason enough for change. What is your incentive? Whether we are running away or towards something, we ourselves have to decide on the time and our reason for change towards harmony in communication and relationships.
4. Is it necessary for the other to be trained in communication?
Communication which is compassionate towards the needs of others is so natural that knowledge and perseverance of one party is all it takes for others to follow. The other person doesn’t need to be especially trained in communication because a positive example is very powerful and attractive. With providing a positive example something like resonance happens – the person who knows how to communicate “sends a frequency” for the benefit of all involved that others “attune” to. This can take some time, but it is worth the effort.
5. Can I do it?
Experience shows us that everybody can do it. The capability for compassionate response to our own needs and the needs of others is in every one of us. It just needs to be recognized and elevated to the level where it is useful in our relationships and everyday situations that surround us.
6. What will change in my life?
You will get the chance to better understand yourself and others. This will enable you to connect with yourself more easily and therefore with others as well. You will free yourself from the patterns of learned and acquired negative behaviour. You will become a co-creator of your future in an efficient way which is easy to understand and available for widespread use. You will use your creativity in a positive way and significantly improve various aspects of your life. You will feel better in your relationships and participate in them with more desire because you will consciously choose your personal positive changes.
7. Does communication need to be perfect for us to be content?
We will introduce you to the knowledge and processes that will enable you to listen to what is happening within you and others in a given moment, at that exact place in those exact circumstances. Don’t worry about being perfect at the beginning, just be aware of your needs and the needs of others and focused on their fulfilment. Successful communication is like a plane flight. Even though the plane is never exactly on course, because of a series of adjustments along the way the plane will still land at its destination. It’s the same with communication: stick to the principles of successful communication and listen. Don’t worry, it won’t be perfect, but it will be fulfilling and successful.
8. What is the alternative?
The alternative to improving communication is yielding to old behavioural patterns which for the most part come down to who is to blame and how to defend yourself and attack the other party. That sort of communication is negative and toxic; it leads to compromised relationships and repeated conflicts with our environment, our family and us. You have the chance to change that now. The definition of insanity is to repeat the old patterns and expect new results.
9. What prevents successful communication?
Our own pain, alienation from ourselves and others, bad habits, prejudice, lack of knowledge about successful communication, not enough perseverance in applying those principles... There are many causes for dissatisfaction in communication and relationships, but guided practicing can help you consciously change then into desirable habits and relationships.
10. What is the best time to start?
A Chinese proverb states: “The best time to plant a fruit was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” It is the same with successful communication, if you haven’t started already – today is your chance.
11. How can transformational communication help me?
Through texts you can access on this website we will present you with the principles of successful communication. You can learn more about it through seminars, lectures, workshops and personal consultation on offer.
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